What is stress?

Stress is a psychological and physical reaction to a perceived pressure, threat, or belief a person has insufficient resources to cope with current demands. When demands outweigh resources, stress builds.

Not all stress is bad. Brief acute stress, such as a looming deadline, can help us to pay attention, hyperfocus, aid recall and problem-solving. Chronic stress is toxic and can cause damage to your physical and mental health.

Low resources

Body

  • Fresh air
  • Water
  • Food
  • Sleep and rest
  • Energy

Psychological

  • Time
  • Knowledge
  • Skills
  • Talents
  • Positive emotions
  • Hope

Relational

  • Partner
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Colleagues
  • Love
  • Spirituality

Socio-economic

  • Money
  • Employment
  • Housing
  • Education
  • Healthcare
  • Transport
  • Public services
A seesaw tipped down on the demands side, with resources raised

High demands

Body

  • Exercise
  • Injury
  • Illness
  • Pregnancy or childbirth
  • Breastfeeding

Psychological

  • Social camouflaging

Relational

  • Social events
  • Birthdays
  • Weddings
  • Divorce
  • Death and grief
  • Relational conflict

Socio-economic

  • Cooking
  • Cleaning
  • Appointments
  • Life admin
  • Household bills
  • Rent or mortgage
  • Moving house or countries
  • Work deadlines
  • Meetings and presentations
  • Commuting
  • Travelling
  • Job loss

Acute stress (eustress)
vs chronic stress (distress)

  • Boredom (low engagement and performance)
  • Eustress (high engagement and performance)
  • Stress overload (exhaustion, sleep difficulties, emotional dysregulation, sensory reactivity, physical restlessness and cognitive difficulties)
  • Distress (burnout, breakdown, depression and immune suppression)

The cost of chronic stress

While acute stress can be energising, motivating, and support hyperfocus, chronic stress is toxic. During chronic stress or trauma, the HPA system starts to malfunction, causing the brakes to fail and a perpetual state of hyperarousal. This can lead to reduced stress resilience, immune suppression, burnout, and eventually depression.17-20

Neuroinflammation and brain fog

When the brakes in the brain fail under prolonged stress, neuroinflammation follows. This leads to excessive quinolinic acid, a potent neurotoxin, and eventual neurodegeneration, producing brain fog, difficulty focusing, and memory problems.27

Low mood

Elevated cortisol reduces the conversion of tryptophan to serotonin, the happy hormone, lowering mood and depleting DHEA, which lowers testosterone and oestrogen and reduces libido and appetite.28,25 This is sometimes called the tryptophan shunt.

Insomnia

With less serotonin being produced, the body can no longer manufacture enough melatonin, the sleep hormone. Melatonin is made from serotonin, so the cascade runs directly from mood to sleep, causing insomnia and disrupted sleep.29

Sensory sensitivity and chronic pain

Oestrogen is an excitatory hormone. It turns up the volume on your nervous system, making you more sensitive to sound, light, touch, and smell.21,22,30-33 This happens across the cycle. What keeps that sensitivity in check is progesterone and GABA (gamma-aminobutyric acid), which act as natural brakes later in your cycle. But chronic stress depletes GABA.34 When the brakes fail, there is nothing to dampen the signal, and what you are left with is a nervous system running too loud, for too long. For neurodivergent women this compounds existing sensory differences. Over time, this unrelenting overexcitation is what causes chronic pain, including fibromyalgia, migraines, tinnitus, and other conditions where pain has no obvious physical source.35

IBS

Chronic stress disrupts gut motility and the gut-brain axis, contributing to irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), bloating, constipation, diarrhoea, and digestive problems. The gut and the brain are in constant communication, so a dysregulated nervous system reliably produces a dysregulated gut.36

Low oestrogen

Chronic stress suppresses DHEA because the body is forced to prioritise cortisol production instead.25 Without adequate DHEA, oestrogen, progesterone, and other sex hormones fall, causing anovulation or delayed ovulation and periods that lengthen, become irregular, or stop entirely. Low oestrogen is associated with anorexia, severe depression, and low libido.37

Insulin resistance and hyperandrogenism

Cortisol and adrenaline raise blood sugar, which over time creates insulin resistance.20 Insulin resistance raises testosterone levels, producing hyperandrogenism. This is a distinct hormonal picture from low oestrogen and is associated with obesity, bulimia, PCOS, Type 2 diabetes, visceral fat accumulation, hair thinning, hair loss, and thyroid suppression via inhibition of T4 to T3 conversion.38,39

Immune suppression

Chronic stress suppresses the immune system, making it harder to fight illness and infection. The body becomes more vulnerable to viruses, bacteria, and longer recovery times.40

Allergy-like reactions and MCAS

At the same time, chronic stress raises inflammatory cytokines, creating systemic inflammation and conditions resembling mast cell activation syndrome (MCAS). This increases allergies, asthma, food sensitivities, skin reactions, and the likelihood of autoimmune responses, producing what looks like an immune system that is simultaneously suppressed and overactive.40,41

PoTS and dysautonomia

Chronic HPA axis dysregulation disrupts the autonomic nervous system, which controls involuntary functions including heart rate, blood pressure, and circulation. This can produce dysautonomia, a broad failure of autonomic regulation, and specifically postural tachycardia syndrome (PoTS), where heart rate spikes abnormally on standing.42 PoTS is significantly more common in autistic and ADHD women and is frequently missed or misattributed to anxiety.43